30 August 2011

Far More Than Just Sex.

One of the things I've always had a hard time about when it comes to submissiveness is the fact that no matter where I go, it always seems to be people thinking of it in a sexual aspect. Even here on EP, nearly every group I find regarding being submissive or surrendered boils down to one thing: the sex. It's all about the D/s relationship, what you do in the bedroom, and how you serve him. It always revolves around the sex, and it's almost impossible for me to find a group that finds it to be far more than just that.

Submissiveness, in my eyes, is about one thing, and it's not sex.

It's about trust. To be submissive, you must have absolute trust in your partner. You trust him to love you, to take care of your needs, to protect you. Yes, you trust that he'll understand your needs in the bedroom, but it's not the end-all, be-all of a natural dominant-submissive relationship. To be submissive and to surrender is a joy. It's not something that should be required of you.

Your dominant mate should see and understand the value of your submission to him. It shouldn't just be about his desire to be powerful, or to hold your reins. He should consider himself truly privileged that YOU are the one to lay yourself down before him and submit your entire being to him.

It's a true sign of love if this is the way your relationship works.

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