Not Just For the Bedroom!

I don't consider my relationship that of a lifestyle. My HOH and I don't have "sessions" where we enact sexual things and go about our day acting like the average "vanilla" couple otherwise. Our relationship is free-flowing, unstrained, and absolutely natural. I am a natural submissive by heart and my deepest desire is to always please my husband. There is no need to spank me because I ALWAYS defer to him, no matter what. Yes, I do cheek him on occasion, but he likes that. I do it intentionally because I know he likes it. Not that he needs a reason to, but it gives him another opportunity to dominate me.

The act of domination doesn't have to be painful, although perhaps some might feel that it's necessary. I know factually that I do not need it, and not only that, but it would be detrimental to our relationship and strain the trust I have for him. When my HOH dominates me, it always results in laughter, his and mine both. My body is extremely sensitive and his desired way of dominating so is through tickling. In only moments, I'm completely at his mercy, laughing and gasping for breath. Often he tells me I'm not allowed to struggle, and I must take his "punishment". Usually in this case I'm cheeky again, because I know that in doing so he'll become even more aggressive toward me.

Even still, he need not even touch me to dominate me. A simple smoldering look is enough to stop me in my tracks and set my pulse to racing. And believe me, my HOH is FULL of those kinds of looks! It's immensely gratifying to know that they're ALL for me.

I don't see any need for real pain in a relationship. A swat on the ass in passing or pulling hair in the bedroom is one thing, but real, true pain? I don't find it necessary, and neither does he. If my HOH made me cry for any reason, I know for a fact that it would break his heart. Our relationship is one full of love and laughter, and his desire is to keep me laughing above all else. Without that joy, what sense is there in living at all?

We don't have to fear about keeping the nature of our relationship a secret from my five year old son because the simple fact is, there's nothing to hide! I don't have to worry about my child's reaction, or try and keep things hidden from eyes that should not see it. All he is able to see is love and laughter and lots of huggies and kissies. It's the kind of atmosphere that all children should be raised in, and I know that it's inspired a great deal of confidence in him at his young age.

While I understand that some people enjoy "the lifestyle", this is not the way we choose to do things. I love our natural, traditional, male-led and dominated household. It sets a good precedent not only for me as his submissive, loving, attentive wife, but also as a role-model to my son, who will learn through example how to be a real man.

Submissive Doesn't Mean...

...I'm into BDSM and the sexual fetish lifestyle revolving around being submissive or surrendered. I don't wear a collar, receive spankings when I do "wrong", I'm not a "slave" to my "master", I don't prefer to be a doormat. I'm no masochist, though a swat on the ass in play on the way by once in awhile doesn't bother me. Being submissive doesn't mean that I have fluff between my ears, or that I will just shut my mouth and do what I'm told. And no, if I speak up and say my mind, you may NOT put a ball gag in there.

I'm sure I've ranted about this before on another similar experience group, but submissiveness isn't all about the sex. It's about communication, love, respect, and deep trust. That's not just from the perspective of the submissive, either. The door MUST swing both ways for a dominant/submissive relationship to work. The submissive needs their dominant mate to be strong, to provide for them, to help them feel secure, safe, and comfortable as they are. The dominant must always be kind, caring, gentle, and considerate of his mate's needs, and his top priority should be to see to it that these needs are met.

I've been submissive my entire life. I was a quiet, shy, ultra-serious, and very reserved child. I was also very naive, and my submissive nature and the way I was raised contributed heavily to me putting myself into a very bad, very abusive relationship. Fact of the matter is, I didn't know how to simply say no, so I just went along with things I felt a little squicky about. By the time I fully realized my position, I felt there was no way out, and therefore I was stuck for seven long, lonely, and scary years. I finally managed to break away, although it was extremely difficult for me. Doing so likely saved my life.

I found myself suddenly single and pregnant, with almost no support in my life. I was scared to death of being alone and single forever. So when the opportunity came to get together with an old High School boyfriend, I leapt at it, much to my detriment. I had second thoughts leading up to and all through our wedding. I didn't really want him to touch me. I grit my teeth and bore his attempts at sex. I stayed home while he went to work, but the only time I was truly happy was when he was gone. I ended up discovering a lot of truths about my husband, among them many lies and the fact that he thought marriage was for free housekeeping and free sex whenever he wanted it. After three years, I ended it and moved across the country, with the desire to put as much space between me and him as possible.

I learned a lot from that marriage, truth be told. I learned what I really needed out of a man. My ex is one of those guys that's so eager to please that he has no mind of his own. What do you want for dinner? Whatever you want. What movie would you like to see? I don't care, whichever one you like. The list goes on and on. As it turns out, my ex was submissive himself, and that was the sticking point and one of the largest reasons why our marriage failed. It taught me that I need a truly dominant man, one that holds to traditional values. Someone I had things in common with, that would listen and actively engage my mind in conversation and matters of intellect.

In moving across the country, I ended up finding just who I was looking for, and I'm ever so glad for all the mistakes I've made. If I hadn't made them, they never would've led me here.

Like a Child.

There's nothing in the world like your husband holding you while you cry like a baby and telling you that everything will be alright.

There's such comfort in his words, such strength in his arms.

Being with him makes you feel stronger yourself, more confident.

Even if you feel like a child when he's holding you, there's nothing wrong with that.

He allows you to cry, to grow, to change, and loves you all the more for your tears.

You epitomize femininity to him.

You allow him to see your weakness, and even that weakness is a strength.

You feel like a child, but when your emotions are wrung out, he dries your tears and you return to being a woman, having grown through the experience.

There is nothing more feminine and womanly than being allowed emotion.

There is nothing wrong with being held, and nothing wrong with needing it, too.

Dominant Doesn't Mean Domineering

Dom·i·nant
(adjective)
1.ruling, governing, or controlling; having or exerting authority or influence: dominant in the chain of command.
2.occupying or being in a commanding or elevated position.
3.predominant; main; major; chief: Corn is the dominant crop of Iowa.

dom·i·neer·ing
(adjective)
inclined to rule arbitrarily or despotically; overbearing; tyrannical: domineering parents.

A truly dominant man would never actively seek to hurt his partner. His role as dominant is that of protector, so it would go against the entire nature of the dynamic for him to be abusive or domineering. He is there to guide, to raise up his submissive partner, and in doing so it's guaranteed that she will feel safe, loved, and protected. His role is to have authority, to show the way in the relationship for its betterment.

I once saw someone try to argue that she wouldn't allow her husband to be dominant in their relationship because if jobs came up, he would always choose his job over hers, even going so far as to move across the country to seek different employment.

A truly dominant man wouldn't choose his job over hers simply because HE is the MAN. He would do so because his job is the one that earns more money (in the case of those with two-job households), and if it didn't, it would be selfish of him to seek his own desires over the needs of his family. This is not being dominant. It is being domineering, selfish, and pigheaded.

There is a fine line between dominance and domineering that many men struggle with. It all comes down to trust. A truly dominant man is worthy of wholehearted respect, love, admiration, and trust. Nowhere does fear need enter the picture, as would an overbearing, tyrannical, domineering male figure.

The bible said simply this: "A house divided against itself cannot stand." If people don't realize what this means, I have the answer. What it means is that there must be some sort of structure and levels of authority in all aspects of life, including in the home. Two people cannot be the leaders and rulers over the household, because the power struggle caused by it will undoubtedly end in the destruction of the relationship. It is completely natural for one person to take the lead role over others, and throughout the course of history, it has always been the man's place to do this.

Today, it's a different story altogether. The rise of feminism has given us many bad ideals. Among them is the idea that men are worthless and useless, because women can do anything they can. It successfully (in most cases) gave the pants to the women and emasculated men to the point where they're not even allowed to say "I think..." anymore for fear that they will be labeled sexist. It's a complete role reversal with bad consequences, and it's against the very nature of man and woman.

Economy Hits Families Below the Belt

For those that don't believe that we're in a new great worldwide Depression, facts speak louder than rhetoric.

According to a new Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report, the jittery economy is responsible for birthrates falling to their lowest rates since 2007, falling into the same pattern not seen since the Great Depression. Today's birth rates are 65 births per 1,000 women - less than rates found in 1935 when birthrates were 77 per 1,000 women.

Sixty-five births per one thousand women? This idea is extremely frightening to think about for very long. It's worse than during the middle of the Great Depression. Granted, today's birth control measures are far better than what they were back in the thirties. Taking into account population growth in the US between then and now, the fact that birth control is readily available is probably a moot point.

The economy worldwide is horrible and bound to get worse, prompting women all across the US to not have children. If this trend continues, it's bound to have terrible consequences for the US and the world. It may lead to the nation's depopulation, making it harder and harder for our children to find partners in the future.

For all that globalist greenies claim that the world's population is out of control and needs to be cut back, it seems that they don't actually need to do anything to further their goals. 

Source: CDC report: Bad economy leads to low birth rates

Feminism, Pt 1-7

This is a video series I found on youtube from a very smart, well-read young woman about feminism, why it's bad for the world, and its tie into global government, liberalism, and the NWO. It's well worth the time spent to watch it, and I recommend it highly for anyone who feels that there's something inherently wrong with society and gender roles in today's modern age.

Even if I tried, I could never say this better myself.

All rights to http://www.youtube.com/user/christy0misty for her wonderful insight on this very important topic.

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Part One

Part Two

Part Three

Part Four

Part Five

Part Six

Part Seven

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